The Silent Thief: How Avoidance Steals Your Time, Energy, and Freedom…

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The Silent Thief:  How Avoidance Steals Your Time, Energy, and Freedom…

We all have moments in our life when we know something just isn’t quite right.  This may be feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected - not just from others, but from ourselves.  We sense that we’re not living in alignment with who we want to be.  And yet, instead of facing those feelings head-on, we often do what most of us have been conditioned to do:

We avoid:

We stay busy

We scroll

We eat

We delay

We tell ourselves, “I’ll deal with it later.”

While avoidance may feel like a temporary comfort, it comes at a cost - a cost we rarely see until it’s already taken something precious from us.

1.  Time:  The First Thing We Lose

Avoidance is a thief of time.

We don’t always notice it at first.  It’s just one more episode, one more snack, one more day of pushing things off.  But over time, those “laters” become weeks, months or even years.  We find ourselves living on autopilot, waiting for the right moment to change, without realizing we’re spending our most valuable resource:  our time.

You can’t get time back the time you spent stuck in cycles that didn’t serve you.  But you can choose what you do with the time you have left.

2.  Energy:  Drained by What We Don’t Face

Avoidance isn’t passive.  It’s exhausting.

The things we push down don’t disappear - they linger.  The unfinished tasks, the unresolved emotions, the conversations we avoid - They take up space in our minds and hearts.  And over time, they start to drain us.

Avoidance robs us of the mental and emotional energy we need to be present, productive, and at peace.

3.  Well-being:  Disconnected and Discontent

When we live in avoidance, we often feel disconnected - from our values, our goals, and our sense of purpose.  We know we’re capable of more, but we’re too overwhelmed or afraid to begin.  That gap between where we are and where we want to be creates inner tension.

The longer we avoid, the more that inner discomfort grows - and we start to believe the lie that we’re just ‘not motivated” or “not ready,” or “not enough.”  When the truth is:  we’re simply avoiding what feels hard.

4.  Health:  Habits That Hinder Healing

Avoidance often shows up in the way we care for - or neglect - our bodies.

We skip workouts not because we don’t care, but because we’re mentally and emotionally tapped out.  We eat for comfort, not nourishment.  We sleep too little or too much.  And all of it becomes a pattern that keeps us in survival mode.

But health isn’t just about willpower - it’s about awareness.  And healing begins when we stop running from ourselves and start tuning in.

5.  Career:  Holding Back Our Potential

In our professional lives, avoidance can look like procrastination, perfectionism, or fear of failure.  We delay decisions, avoid growth opportunities, or stay in jobs that don’t align with our passions because change feels risky.

But avoiding discomfort is also avoiding growth.

What could you accomplish if you face your fears instead of feeding them?

What would happen if you stopped waiting for confidence and started building it through action?

6.  Relationships:  Distance in Disguise

Avoidance affects how we show up for others.

We avoid hard conversations, honest vulnerability, and emotional intimacy - not because we don’t care, but because we’re afraid.  Afraid of conflict.  Rejection.  Being misunderstood.

But every time we choose silence over truth, or withdrawal over connection, we widen the distance between ourselves and the people who matter most.

True connection requires presence.  And presence begins with courage.   

The Truth About Avoidance

Avoidance is human.  It’s not a flaw - it’s a response to fear, discomfort, and overwhelm.  But the longer we live in it, the more it costs us.

Time we can’t get back.

Energy we can’t replenish.

Health we can’t ignore.

Opportunities we never take.

Relationships we fail to nurture.

A version of ourselves we never fully become.

How many moments have we lost to avoidance - staying busy to outrun our thoughts, reaching for food to soothe stress, or scrolling to escape the discomfort of stillness?  How many habits have we unknowingly built that keep us stuck, when what we truly crave is freedom, clarity, and peace?

The good news?  You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight.  You just have to start noticing.  Becoming aware and getting honest with yourself.  As uncomfortable as that awareness may feel it is the doorway to healing, growth, and freedom.